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4 Things to Know When Dealing With a 2nd Unplanned Pregnancy

If you are faced with an unplanned pregnancy, it can be a very stressful and confusing time. When you are faced with your second or third unplanned pregnancy, it can leave you searching for answers to many different questions like: 

  • Is putting a second child up for adoption an option? 
  • Is there help on how to explain putting a baby up for adoption to my older kids? 
  • How to deal with an unplanned third pregnancy

These are just some of the questions you may be asking. It’s completely natural to have many different thoughts and concerns, but don’t worry, you are not alone — American Adoptions is here to help. This guide will help you make sense of what can be a troubling time. 

Here you will find information explaining how putting a second child up for adoption is always an option, as well as help on how to explain your adoption decision to your older children. No matter if you are dealing with your second, third or fourth unplanned pregnancy, you can always call 1-800-ADOPTION or fill out this online form to get in touch with an adoption professional. They will explain your options, walk you through the adoption process, and answer any other questions you may have. 

Until then, keep reading this guide on four things to know when dealing with more than one unplanned pregnancy.

1. Adoption is Always an Option

When you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, no matter how many times you have been pregnant in the past, you are instantly faced with many different thoughts and emotions. Because most people portray prospective birth mothers as single women who are experiencing their first pregnancy, you may doubt your ability to pursue adoption if you have been pregnant in the past.

This is not the case at all.

Birth mothers come from all different walks of life and are all experiencing many different situations that factor into their decision to place their baby for adoption. Some are placing their first child, others may have placed multiple, but all share the same goal for doing so — providing the best opportunity for their baby. 

When you choose adoption for your baby, you are doing so out of love for your child, you want what is best for them. This is why an adoption is always an option

Many women choose adoption for more than one pregnancy, and many women choose adoption after raising children. No matter how many times you’ve chosen adoption before, you can always choose it again. Putting a second child up for adoption in OHio is an option, and in most cases, is the best decision you can make.

With over 30 years of experience as one of the largest domestic infant adoption agencies in the United States, American Adoptions has helped birth mothers in about every situation imaginable successfully place their babies for adoption. 

No matter if you’re facing a second unplanned pregnancy, are coping with an unplanned third pregnancy, or more, we are here to help. Call 1-800-ADOPTION or fill out this online form to get in touch with an adoption specialist and to discuss your options for adoption in Ohio. 

2. Placing a 2nd, 3rd, or 4th Child for Adoption

If you have placed a child for adoption, you know the process can be difficult at times, but ultimately, the outcome is rewarding and encouraging. Finding the right adoptive family and knowing they will provide your child with a lifetime of love and support is one of the most fulfilling decisions you can make. 

The process and goals for putting a second child up for adoption in Ohio are essentially the exact same.

Keep in mind, no matter if this is your 2nd or 3rd adoption, there are no costs for birth mothers choosing adoption, it is always free. Just like your previous adoption, you will work with an adoption specialist and begin creating your adoption plan. When you work with American Adoptions, you will be in complete control of this step and will ultimately make the final decisions throughout the adoption process. This plan will cover things like:

  • The type of family you hope to find
  • Your needs for financial assistance
  • The type of relationship you want to have with the adoptive family and your child
  • Where you want to deliver your baby
  • Many other important details.

Once a plan is in place, you’ll begin looking through adoptive family profiles in hopes of finding a family that best matches your preferences on the family you want to find for your baby. You will work with your adoption specialist to narrow down your options and to begin communicating with potential families to learn more about them and to see if there is a connection.

When you feel comfortable enough, you will make your decision on the family you want to place your baby with. At this point, you will determine the type of adoption you both hope to complete and will begin to work on creating a placement plan. Once the time comes and you have delivered your baby, you will sign your consent paperwork, and placement will occur. At this point, your involvement with the adoptive family and your baby will determine the level of openness you and the adoptive family agreed upon.

Given your knowledge of the adoption process, this is just a brief rundown of what to expect, as the process will be nearly identical to your first or second adoption. If you have any questions, you can always call 1-800-ADOPTION or fill out this form to get more information about putting asecond child up for adoption.

With such a life-changing decision as adoption, you want to make sure you are fully prepared, educated, and comfortable with the process — American Adoptions is here to help ensure that is the case.

3. How to Explain Putting a Baby Up for Adoption in Ohio to your Older Kids

If you are facing a second unwanted pregnancy while currently parenting, it is likely you have concerns about how to explain your adoption decision to your children.

Although putting a second child up for adoption may be best for your situation, it can also be confusing for children to understand. Your adoption specialist will be by your side to offer you guidance on the best time to talk to your children about your pregnancy and adoption plans, as well as give you suggestions on how you should go about telling them. Some of those tips include:

  • Talking about adoption early in your pregnancy. This creates open communication and avoids any situations that may appear as though you are hiding your pregnancy or adoption from them. 
  • Using positive adoption language. This will help them better understand that adoption is a beautiful life-changing decision, one you are making out of the love you have for your baby and for your children.
  • Keeping your children up to date and involved. Keeping them involved in the process can help them better understand the adoption. Depending upon the type of adoption you choose, they may be involved in future meetings with the adoptive family and your baby. You may consider their involvement in finding an adoptive family and more.
  • Being honest. Honesty is always the best policy when explaining such an important decision to your children.

You may find peace of mind knowing that adoption counseling and support will be available throughout your pregnancy and beyond, should you or your family need support or tips for coping with an unplanned second pregnancy in Ohio. Fill out this online form to get more information on how to tell your children about giving your second child up for adoption.

4. Unplanned Pregnancy and Adoption Counseling is Available

At American Adoptions, we fully understand the emotional aspects facing a second unplanned pregnancy can create. Coping with an unplanned second pregnancy is a lot for anyone to handle, By offering 24/7 counseling services, we make sure you don’t have to do it alone. 

Adoption professionals are always available to answer any questions or concerns you may have, no matter when you have them. They can help guide you to support groups and other resources to make sure you get the help you need throughout your pregnancy and well after placement occurs.

To learn more about counseling services during your pregnancy and adoption, give us a call at 1-800-ADOPTION. You’ll speak with one of our experienced adoption professionals who can help you at any hour, no matter what you may need. 

Contact American Adoptions 

If you are feeling overwhelmed by your second unplanned pregnancy or are considering placing a third child up for adoption, we are here to help. Give us a call at 1-800-ADOPTION or fill out our online form to get immediate support from a trained professional. We are here to help make sense of your situation and to give you and your baby the support that you deserve.

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